Therapy for 40 Year Olds

  This one is for you. You know who you are. The one of few I deem worthy to love whole. Although knowing you as I do - you will not believe this is really for you until you find some clarifying line that makes it solidly yours. Knowing you, even now you are thinking- this isn't for you - its for those she rates more, those shes known longer, those who are closer. You're wrong. Its for you. I wanted to write down, as sometimes verbal telling doesn't express - that I think so very highly of you. More than I ever let you know, more than you will accept for your perception of your own worth, and more than I written words can express. I am glad and grateful I found you. You weren't expected, - or assumed to be all you are - and yet, I sometimes ponder if we had never met and joined up - where and what I would be. You're bigger and better than you believe. I don't like to tell you because I am built to believe telling people they are more than only fuels narcisism. I...

Have you yet learned regret is just not worth your energy? No - read on.  If yes, then go back to search for another more useful blog :) I have pointedly few regrets - and decidedly so. Not because I am some whizz and letting things go - not at all. I am an elephant that never forgets.  I just have consciously decided that less regret helps me be more of who I am today - and not shaped by what cant be changed and is done. My two main regrets are: (you didnt ask but this is a blog...soo) That I didn't ask my Dad to dance with me at my wedding That I didn't understand how to maintain friendships at the end of sections of my life - like end of school or Uni or moving jobs -  just losing souls I quite liked and never saying goodbye or feeling it ended how I wished. And they are the twol that come to me. Now don't get me wrong, I wish somethings had been different, yes. Somethings may still come to me and I think what I could have done differently and what difference if a...

 Defining yourself is known and researched and proven to be a display of nature (the genes that made you up) and nurture (the environment around you). What's fascinating to me is trying to teach my 12 year old, a bright honest innocent soul, that there is a third. Him. How you were made and who made you and who you were influenced by in family or who you choose to shape your surrounds with now will always dominate.  But if you learn a strong senss of self, if you learn early your core voice and inner soul, and you trust it, you also have on nature and nurture - a lifelong knowledge you make up how you define yourself. For so long I defined myself by thinking I knew who and what I was. My nature had provided confidence and strength. My nurture early on taught me independence and ability to know I was alone very young.  One memory I had at school when I was 9 years old was crying uncontrollably. I don't remember what caused it. I don't know what happened before. But I remem...

  I watched something the other day which outlined the ages of time for all of us. He said it more eloquently - but I cannot stop building on it. 0-25 is a phase I can't remember what he called - but I will call the Initiation Phase - because it is you beginning your life, you and we all are learning the ways of the world, and becoming acquainted with all your foundations, and vessel (body). Its scary, enjoyable, free and unbound. It moves as you do - and it teaches you how and what it could all be about. You feel it is all consuming as you move through it - but learn in hindsight it was unchained - it was the most unchallenging. 60+ is the Release Phase -  the happiest generation, the release of all that came before. Despite the impending mortality; despite the vessel wearing tired, and despite your health being your largest concern. Apparently this phase is the most settled, the most secure mentally, the age you no longer pine, or fear, or succumb to unwanted territory ...